When I was younger, my brother and I use to play a game with our sister, Andrea. The game would consist of us using her name as a “curse” word. So we would just say things where a normal “swear” would usually appear with “Andrea” instead. It was a great game, well for us anyways. Phrases such as “Shut the Andrea up”, “your full of Andrea”, etc… She was a pretty good sport about it, but it would eventually annoy her to a point where she asked us “nicely” to stop.
The funny thing is that we didn’t use curse words in the first place. Well, unless you count the time when my twin brother, Sean, had a little “I can’t help it” episode when he was like 3 years old. Let me tell you one thing, mom and dad helped him “help it” real fast.
So what is the big deal over cursing in the first place?
1. IT GOES AGAINST GOD’S WORD.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” – Ephesians 4:29
“For, whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech.” – 1 Peter 3:10
With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.” James 3:9-12
Jesus states that which comes out of our mouths is that which feels our hearts. “The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks” – Luke 6:45
Our speech is a reflection on what we are filling our life with, so basically it goes back to the saying that I often state: “Garbage in, Garbage out”. As Philippians 4:8 states, fill your life with things that our pure.
2. IT MAKES YOU SOUND IGNORANT
I was working out the other day at the gym, and right next to me were a bunch of guys talking about some stuff they did over the weekend. They honestly had to use a curse every other word. They just sounded plain ignorant. Seriously, learn some other adjectives to describe how your night was.
If you curse, you sound stupid…. really.
3. WHAT QUALIFIES AS A CURSE WORD
One thing that I hear often is “what exactly is a curse word in the first place?”. Well, in our society we are quite familiar with the “BIG” ones, commonly know as the “F – word”, “S – word”, etc… Some will argue and say, “well, the meaning is this…” or “it just depends on the context”.
Then there are the other curse words, which might not be as “STRONG”, but still are commonly known as “swears”.
So where do Christians draw the line? If the world states that these certain words are “curse” words, then we need to go back to Philippians 4:8 and stay as far away from those words that we can. This also includes “sound alike” or “replacement” words. Words such as “effing, frickin, shoot, dang, biotch, and even gosh”. Yes, even “gosh”.
Why? Because what we state with our mouth is a reflection of what is in our heart.
Oh, and while I am on the subject, using abbreviations are the same, and just as bad. You know what it means, and just because it is abbreviated, doesn’t make it okay.
4. IT MAKES YOU SOUND IGNORANT
Just incase you missed it the first time… seriously.
5. WE ARE CALLED TO BE DIFFERENT
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. – Romans 12:2
If we are truly going to allow God to transform us, we need to give Him every part of our life. It’s not an easy task at times, and we will struggle, and even “slip” at times with our mouths. But, if we are serious about God “transforming” our lives, we need to be willing to let Him do His work within our lives.
So, watch your mouths and allow your speech to be filled with words that are glorifying to God.